Coping with a Breakup, Divorce or Death of a loved one

Losing someone or something you love is very painful. After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger and guilt.  Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. As you deal with your loss, remember that everyone grieves differently. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.

A serious problem can occur when grieving becomes set in as a pattern of behaviour. It can trigger depression, both mild and severe, which if not healed naturally, may go on to create suicidal thoughts. Sometimes we unconsciously wear our grief as a ‘badge of recognition’ with regards to how much we loved and miss a loved one. This is in fact the last thing a loved one would want. Sometimes we get so locked into the grieving process that we can easily forget those who are living.

Loss is a personal trauma. As with all other traumas, these events if processed healthily, in time, will have no long term harmful effects. Loss can be overwhelming. We begin the desparate road of asking non answerable questions, looking for all the reasons. WHY? What we personally could or could not have done. What others could or could not have done. The accompanying anger, guilt and pain can change our brain chemistry and cause depression. What if we could transform this trauma, this loss into something positive, in time, a higher purpose that creates a legacy of good. Regret, guilt and anger and inner conflict are toxic states which harm our body and create a foundation for chronic health conditions.

Suzi Tyler creates a very safe environment to release pain and turn confusion into calm, understanding and peace. 01843 846974 or 07836 635233.

Coping with a Breakup or Divorce

Moving on after a relationship ends It’s never easy when a marriage or other significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split – and whether or not you wanted it – the breakup of a long-term, committed relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are things you can do to get through this difficult time. Even in the midst of the sadness and stress of a divorce or breakup, you have an opportunity to learn from the experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person.